you gotta know when to hold em

Everyone has opinions.

And right now, everyone seems to be shouting them — simultaneously.

We live in a moment shaped by outrage cycles, constant commentary, and the idea that having a thought automatically means it must be shared. Social media has blurred the line between wisdom and noise — between discernment and reaction.

Because having an opinion doesn’t mean it’s a divine assignment.

There’s a difference between being informed and being consumed.
Between speaking with purpose and clanging like a cymbal.
Between contributing meaningfully and just adding to the chaos.

Not every thought needs a microphone.
Not every disagreement needs a response.
Not every moment requires commentary.

But some do.

And it’s important to know that sharing an opinion carries responsibility.

It should be invited.
Or at least rooted in relationship.
And definitely offered with humility and care.

Otherwise, wisdom may look like silence — which doesn’t mean disengagement. It means discernment.

Scripture tells us to be quick to listen and slow to speak — not because truth doesn’t matter, but because how we engage matters deeply.

It’s important to know when the most radical thing to do is mind your business — and not from a place of apathy, but wise stewardship.

Because peace is not built by shouting.
Clarity is not birthed from noise.
And transformation rarely comes — if ever at all — from unsolicited opinions.

Speak up when it’s warranted, necessary even. (And do so with conviction plus kindness and compassion.)

Otherwise, care for that which you are actually responsible for.

Because like Kenny Rogers sang,

“You gotta know when to hold em Know when to fold 'em
Know when to walk away
And know when to run”

And that type of wisdom is a form of spiritual leadership. (Just don’t start gambling, alright?)

There are only two days left in this Wake Pray Slay journey.

Tomorrow, Day 20, we explore the truth that some people, places, and situations simply do not mix. (No matter how much effort, explanation, or prayer we apply.)

Discernment isn’t just about knowing when to speak. It’s also about recognizing when something isn’t meant to blend — and having the wisdom to stop forcing it.

Because sometimes the lesson isn’t change.
It’s acceptance.

See you tomorrow.