on mean girls (part 2)

If you have ever suffered harm or injury at the hands of a mean girl, you may be eligible for financial compensation.

Not really.
But emotionally?
Spiritually?
Baby, the bill is due.

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking:

• “Am I being bullied… by grown women?”

• “I thought this ended after high school.”

• “Why does her energy shift when I experience a win?”

• “Why is she sweet in public but sour in private?”

• “What did I ever do to her besides exist?”

…then you’ve experienced a psychological hit-and-run by a serial mean girl.

I’ve been blindsided by mean girl behavior in spaces I helped build.
I’ve felt the sting in friendships I hoped and believed were safe.
I’ve watched women I supported, encouraged, prayed for, and rooted for turn cold, competitive, or cruel without warning.

And truthfully?

It hurts.
It’s heartbreaking.
It’s confusing and it can shake your confidence and make you question your belonging.

And even though I know the psychology — the insecurity, the scarcity, the unhealed wounds — it doesn’t make the lived experience any less painful.

But here's the truth that keeps my heart soft:
Even in the midst of mean girl behavior, I am surrounded by incredible women.

Women who:

• celebrate without competing.

• cheer loudly, pray sincerely, and love generously.

• show up with real kindness, not performative niceness.

• remind me that true sisterhood is real.

And I refuse to let the wounds from the former make me numb to the beauty of the latter.

If you’ve been hurt by mean girls — I see you.
You’re not imagining it.
And you’re not alone.
There is still good friendship and real community available to you.